Having Breakup Problems, Here Are The 7 Things To Avoid After A Breakup.

Hey guys, I am back with a very crucial topic which I know most of us would love.Okay before I jump into this article,I'd love to advice anyone reading this that just had a breakup,you made the decision, you have to be strong and to remember that, 'EVERY DISAPPOINTMENT IS A BLESSING AND A LEARNING MOMENT' so yeah, back to the post.

You feel the world is about to collapse?You feel you can't move on. It truly takes time to get over someone you actually love,' no need to worry,i'm here to help.You just got to the right post on how to move on by avoiding some basics things we call little but are also deep one way or the other .Before your relationship ended,you must have gone through some things you didn't like,maybe the way your partner behaved towards you, treated you or whatsoever your partner must have done and you made the decision even if it's going to be hard.Your happiness should be your number one priority.

Here are the Basic things to avoid after a breakup that should work for you:

1:STOP VISITING THEIR SOCIAL MEDIA PAGES:This is for my emotional girls and guys out there, please, please and please if the break up is early, this is for you .Don't look at their pictures or stalk them on social media.You just have to try your best and if you feel it didn't work for you , you can as well delete all the pictures and all the sweet places you and your partner went to and all from your phone .If you're the type that can break down just seeing their pictures and videos on social media, I will advice you to move on by deleting or blocking them or social media because, it can affect your daily activities or anything you're doing and all.So just do that and It should it helps.

2.BLAMING YOURSELF:It's no one's fault.There was a reason behind the breakup so blaming yourself will make you look like the "BAD PERSON".Accept your faults.Don't say I messed it up, don't blame yourself rather say I wish things just went good instead of blaming yourself .One way or the other both partners must have made  mistakes during the relationship and all because no matter what the problems will not come from just one person.So why blame yourself when it's not coming from one side.If the issue is coming from one side at that moment ,don't blame yourself too much,just be like, 'I wish I didn't mess this thing up' that's all.Don't blame yourself too much cause it can affect you .Accept your faults, work on it and you'll be a better person.

3.DON'T INSULT THEM IN FRONT OF YOUR FRIENDS:Don't ever insult your partner in front of your friends because it will just make you look petty and immature.Even if you want to talk to someone and you know it might end up in a nasty way , then go on by talking to a close friend rather than insulting in front of your friends.Truth be told,Just learn to be reserved and not loud.When you guys where  in the relationship, you didn't insult your partner in front of your friends, why then do you have to do it after the breakup?It doesn't make sense.

4.ISOLATING YOURSELF BY STAYING INDOORS:Don't isolate yourself.I know it's hard,you can't go on,you can't have fun but staying in door and thinking about the relationship always won't make you feel better also.Get up and go have some fun with friends or family.When you go out with your friends, by friends I mean the friends that will cheer you up and try to make things better .Have some fun, take a shot,live your life to the fullest or you can even hit a club , dance to the rhythm and boom!!!you will take your mind off the break up at that moment.

5.DON'T COMMUNICATE WITH THEM IF IT'S UNHEALTHY:I believe that communicating with them when it's unhealthy it's very very wrong, because it might even end up in a nasty manner . When you just had a breakup the first thing is to gain closure which could be by not communicating with them for a week or two.If you know that communicating or seeing their pictures and videos can also make you break down, make you angry and make you feel sad and If you know you're very very emotional, you can do so by blocking them from social media because if you leave them and keep seeing what they are doing and all, you can even breakdown again.Just so you know that it's better to communicate with them when you have gained closure.I feel communicating with them after most of those type of feelings have been gotten rid of.Its better to communicate after all the feelings are gone and it can even bring understanding .

6.DON'T COMPARE YOURSELF TO THE NEW PERSON:Life isn't a competition, comparing yourself to the new person is just you overthinking, at that moment in your life ,you don't need to compare yourself to the new person because it's none of your business regardless of what has happened or whatsoever.Don't just beat yourself because they're happy with someone else,their happiness doesn't determine your worth as a person.

7.DON'T START DATING AGAIN(REBOUNDING):Rebounding is when you haven't gotten over the last person and you begin again. Take a chill pill, hahahaha. So yeah,after a breakup,you need to focus on yourself, your happiness, your priorities, your goals, dating immediately should not be the next thing as much as it can be a good distraction, but you just need space to heal, recap on your past and rebuild yourself. Whatever you do,do not start seeing someone else to make your ex jealous.Instead, live your life to the fullest and please, please and please even if you want to date someone else, don't repeat the same mistakes you made in your last relationship.

I hope you learnt something from this article one way or the other and I'd love to see your opinion and if you also have things i didn't say,you can comment  and tell me if this has worked for you or not .Let's be interactive.

Thanks, bye guys.